Women of Strength and Dignity

Last evening I drank too much caffeine and couldn’t sleep. I found myself clicking through channels on late night television and landed on an old favorite of mine. The Big Valley.

The ABC series ran in the late sixties and portrayed a woman named Victoria Barkley (played by Barbara Stanwyck), a widow of a wealthy nineteenth century California rancher. Week after week, this woman faced intense drama with a perfect blend of tenderness and tenacity. I remember thinking I wanted to grow up to be just like her.

Barbara Stanwyck’s refusal to portray the character as fragile was controversial at the time, but I loved how Victoria was both credibly warm and tough as nails.

I know a few women just like that:

~   The friend who faced another MRI this week, to see if the cancer was back.

~   Another gal learned her son is in jail. He crashed her car while driving under the influence.

~   One woman got the call every woman dreads. Her husband went for a ride on his motorcycle and isn’t coming home. Ever.

Despite their hurting hearts, these women will pick themselves up and face the days ahead with strength and dignity. Faith will carry them through.

What about you? How do you deal with hard times?

“Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she smiles at the future.” Proverbs 31:25




In my novel MOTHER OF PEARL (Abingdon Press, Sept 2012), Barrie Graeber learns devastating news. Pre-order your copy today and learn how far this resolute woman will go to set things right.


Fifty Shades of Black and White

I recently became aware of the popularity of the FIFTY SHADES OF GREY book series by E.L. James. Some report this novel is selling close to a million copies daily. Especially since media outlets everywhere are featuring the author and her work.


Normally, I do a happy dance any time I hear readers are buying and enjoying a new novel. This time I can’t.

You see, I have a heart for women. There’s not much more I want in life than for gals like me to find the love and security we were meant to have. I’m afraid the content of this particular story demeans women and leads us into believing our value is “tied up” in our ability to please a man (pun intended).

Admittedly, I’ve not read James’ books (and won’t). I’ve learned the hard way women were never meant to be “mastered” by anyone but our Creator. If you want to release yourself into the complete control of another, God is the only safe person.

Before you start thinking I’m a prude, I happen to know God created sex and is crazy about us having a good time in that arena of life….so long as we enjoy ourselves within the boundaries He’s designed for our protection. Years back, I stepped outside those lines and found some things considered HOT can BURN YOU. I’m not throwing judgment stones at James or her readers. I’m simply warning some paths lead to a place we might not want to go.

I’d love to hear what you think.

My book MOTHER OF PEARL is about a mother who learns her own teenage daughter stepped outside those protections and ventured into an unhealthy relationship with the high school football coach. Barrie Graeber risks everything she holds dear in order to bring him to justice.  Now available for pre-order and in stores September 1, 2012.